Adult ADHD Counseling

Adult ADHD Counseling

James Ochoa says someone with ADHD (Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder) has problems focusing, concentrating, and being easily distracted. In addition, folks with ADHD have long-term problems with evaluating, planning, and prioritizing in a way that’s consistent and organized.

adventurer shiny ADHD

You may have been diagnosed with ADHD before or have some suspicions that you fall within this category. Contrary to some folk’s misconceptions, ADHD does not go away when you become an adult, but sometimes it affects your life differently than when you were a kid.

There are 3 types of ADHD:
  1. Hyperactive Impulsive
  2. Primarily Inattentive
  3. Combined type

 

Despite what type you may have, there are some similar experiences…

Even when the stress goes away, it’s hard to focus.

Even when stress goes away it's hard to focus when you have adult ADHD

Many people discuss the stress and stimulation of modern life. Sometimes they don’t get that ADHD is different than being overly-stimulated. Even when life’s stressors seem small from the outside they can easily overwhelm you. This is mostly because your brain may be going a million miles an hour, but it never seems to be heading toward the direction of the present moment. It’s always either 4 steps ahead or 4 steps behind.



 

Motivation slips through your fingers.

Adult ADHD causes motivation to slip through your fingers

Sometimes this looks like walking from one room to the other and suddenly losing all motivation to do the task you’ve just set off to do. If you’ve got hyperactivity, the impulse to do something more engaging may cause another late assignment. Other times, procrastination occurs because of other distractions. You hop online with the intention of being productive and 3 hours later realize you’re watching a weird but entertaining YouTube channel.

 

You’ve tried to keep up with calendar apps or maybe you have sticky notes everywhere on your desk.  However, the constant reminders and notes everywhere don’t keep your mind focused. Instead they just cause an inner sense of chaos.

 

You don’t want to feel like a failure anymore.

feeling like a failure with adult ADHD

On good days you have plenty of creative ideas that can drive you forward. You may even experience a hyper-focus on something that brings you joy. Sometimes that means neglecting basic self-care like eating though. Eventually you can’t keep up the interest, and it’s on to the next shiny.

 

Then it starts… there is an inner voice that likes to remind you of all the failed projects, lost relationships, and times when you let others down. You start to feel like a fraud. The good news is that in therapy you can practice understanding and working to change this inner voice to be more helpful and in your corner.

 

People just keep getting frustrated with you.

The loneliness when others are frustrated with you and your adult ADHD

Despite your understanding of adult ADHD people keep calling you lazy, and that hurts. It’s hard to know how other people feel, and you’ve had your fair share of misreading people and situations. People take your difficulty with committing to something or your tardiness as a sign that you are not interested in maintaining that relationship. But that’s usually not true. You find it hard to explain yourself though, and start to side with the people who think you’re a villain.

Additionally, the world seems stubborn with staying neurotypcially built. This means that when you try hard you end up masking to keep up with the demands of the modern world. That masking is exhausting though, and often leads you to lose sight of who you truly are.

 

And the storm never seems to end.

Adult ADHD emotional storm

All of life’s hurts, moments of failure, and misunderstandings are filed away somewhere in your brain. But it is hard to focus on any one of these memories without drowning in feelings both good and bad. At times it doesn’t even seem like you can access lessons learned to inform your next choices in life. Therapy is one way you can partner with someone who can look at the files with you and keep them safe without becoming overwhelmed.

Even when you feel like you’re in a stable place, sometimes Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria can blindside you. A friend doesn’t invite you to their dinner; you see a few coworkers out on your Instagram story and it hits you. You feel horribly dejected sitting alone in your house. Just a second ago you were enjoying a nice cuddle with your cat, but now it all feels tainted.

You are not to blame.

Not to blame for Adult ADHD- neuroscience behind it

Adult ADHD is not something someone decides to have. Researchers have found changes in the brain for folks who have ADHD. These include differences in the prefrontal cortex (where planning is essentially housed), changes in the reward circuitry of the brain, and overactive limbic systems (the threat responder parts) (Russell Barkley).  Although the building blocks may be different there are ways to accommodate to adult life.









 

Imagine finding centeredness from within.

Finding anchor and centeredness with adult ADHD

Envision an anchor cast onto the sandy seabed in the midst of a storm. You can begin to build a comprehensive story of you including your qualities, lessons learned, and unique needs. Then imagine lifting the anchor with confidence of where you want to go next in life, knowing you can drop the anchor again at any time.

Understanding where you come from, who you are, and the world around you is key to calming the storm. There are ways to ground yourself when you do feel dizzy (whether it be the good kind like on a roller coaster or the aforementioned storm). The trick is that you are so unique that any regular book on ADHD out there isn’t going to totally cater to you.

 

How counseling can help.

how mental health counseling can help adult ADHD

  • Identify your emotional distress syndrome pattern to be able to handle overwhelming feelings and situations without leaving damage in your life.
  • Develop a deeper understanding of your unique challenges and strengths, and advocate for yourself by educating others about ADHD and your own needs.
  • Discover the inner tools you already possess through the power of the imagination and mindfulness to help you stay centered.
  • Learn more about executive functioning including working memory, the importance of structure, externalizing information, and self-reflection.
  • Reflect on your relationships with loved ones and develop compassion with yourself.

 

Adult ADHD Counseling in Austin, Texas

photograph of Julia Stamman
My approach to counseling is relational, empathetic, and trauma-informed. I focus on both the thoughts and feelings involved (not too touchy feely nor too cold) in your process. Furthermore, a big part of my work is creating a collaborative environment where we focus on the here and now without judgment.

Ready to take care of you? Let me help you in your journey to find relief.

If you’re interested in connecting, you can e-mail me here.